Dealing The Pain Of Disappointment


Wednesday night, I went home feeling disappointed with someone. This isn’t a big deal but I found myself crying as I pray to God that I don’t want what I’m feeling.

Everyone will experience disappointment at some point in life. Yes, everyone.  It may be as different and unique and sure, we all have our own coping mechanism and how we respond to it.

But you know what’s common? It hurts. It brings pain.

And we’ve got to deal with it.

Because if we don’t, disappointment can morph into deep-seated discouragement. In fact, it can lead to chronic devastation.

The Bible encourages us: “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6).

I may never get the answer for the “whys” of life, an unanswered prayers, or unmet expectations, but I believe God allow these things to show that I cannot rely on myself. And that He’s there whom we can always trust. To show miracles or even to provide unlimited comfort when we need it.

Romans 8:28, “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” (NLT)

God is sovereign and powerful, and He is good. He always uses His power to further his promise of love and grace toward his people.

So if you’re in a situation right now where you are disappointed with someone, something or to your self, I may not now exactly how it weighs on you but know that God is our heavenly Father who loves us and knows what’s best for us and know that our response matters to God.

I’m not good in words of encouragement or some sort of. But I would love to share 5 things on how to deal the pain of disappointments.

(With all honesty, I tend to let a person go through it or just pray for them as I suppress my own emotions with regards to any pain but it isn’t always the case)

Read through and I hope it helps.

1. Acknowledge the disappointment

Face it. Nothing will be solved if we shrug it off. Be honest with yourself about what you’re feeling. After all, it is valid, we are humans made with emotions. Tell God how you feel, we can always pour out our hearts to Him.

It’s okay to be sad, but don’t dwell on it.

2. Do not doubt yourself 

You may begin to think that you’re a total failure. Remember this: YOU’RE NOT. That feeling of frustration may bleed into general dissatisfaction with yourself as a whole. Do not succumb to this thinking. Do not allow yourself to give in to these lies and negative thoughts!

If there is someone who should believe in you, it should be you – first. God loves you, and He believes in You as our Father sees Jesus in you and that there’s no reason for you to give up hope.

3. Focus on what matters

I know that what disappoints you matters to you, because if it’s not, it won’t disappoint you, right?


But is it really worth it? Take a step back and keep things in perspective. How much of an effect is this disappointment going to have on you tomorrow, next week, or next year?

Put yourselves together because YOU matter.

4. Give Thanks to God

1 Thessalonians 5: 18 “give thanks in all circumstances..”

Instead of concentrating on your problems and getting discouraged, focus on God and thank Him. Meditate on His promises for you. You may have fallen down, but you don’t have to stay down. God is ready, willing and able to pick you up.

5. Move Forward

Learn to adapt and adjust. You can do it!

Change what you need or what you can change. Although not everything will be in your control and you cannot have your way all the time, but be secure in God.

Hebrews 13:5, “…I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support…[I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down….”

I was bursting in tears last Sunday when I heard the song One Thing Remains. It’s not a new song but the words are so true that whenever I hear it, it reminds me of His unfailing love.

“Your love never fails, it never gives up, it never runs out on me”

“There’s nothing that can separate my heart from Your great love.”


What do you do when life disappoints you? Do you still believe that God has a great plan for you?

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